Friendships
Friendships
After staying away from Netflix for nearly 45 days, I watched the documentary, "House of secrets", which is about deaths of 11 family members. It was well researched and didn't make an attempt to find an answer when there are none.
What struck me was how the friends and relations described their relationship with different people in the eleven who allegedly committed suicide. Neighbours talked about how they talk everyday and would even leave their small kids for days when they are travelling outside. Another teenager talked about how close he was with another teenager from opposite gender. How they truly felt it as a brother-sister relationship. Another family showed personalised birthday cards sent to them. Relations talked of how often they spoke with the 11 members of the Delhi family.
Based on diaries recovered from the house, the family was led to believe that if they part take in the ritual, their dead patriarch would visit and save them. It was lead by a family member who met with two accidents, went into trauma, never recovered and was probably hearing voices due to pyschosis.
Yet, none of the friends and relations had any clue what was going inside the family. But all felt they are close to one of the dead family members.
A relationship is real and deep when one feels secure to share their deepest fears, shame, guilt and failures. To make this happen, relationship has to go beyond superficiality. Judgement has to be replaced by unconditional love.
What if the family member having pyschosis had one such friend? This would have probably not happenned. I am thankful for a few friends who show unconditional love towards me. I really hope our society moves into meaningful relationship and have tough conversations.